Listening Is Enough

Posted by Marlene Moore Gordon in Marlene's Musings | 0 comments

April 7^th

My dear childhood friend Amy called today. She is struggling with her ageing parents. I empathized with her. I remember how hard it is and I know it will not get any easier. I just listened, told her I heard her and that I loved her.

“I know you’ve been through this and so much more,” she said remembering that my parents had passed on. I suggested that she find some way to make herself feel better no matter what was going on around her. That life will always present her with situations to feel bad about but if she learns to look for something good despite that, she will be a lot happier. She thanked me and we hung up.

I was not always of this mind set. It has taken the death of parents, many losses, and a lot of major shifting, transitioning and disappointment to learn to cultivate this attitude. It’s one that I don’t always manage to maintain, but the only one that I always strive to return to. It’s how I re- center and feel lighter during the day. Looking for something to feel good about no matter what, is the only way I choose to live my life. It’s the only way for me to happy most of the time.